I wasn’t living— I was just existing
I wasn’t living—I was just existing, stuck in a routine that made me feel small and invisible.
I still remember exactly how it was. I’d come home from work, fully drained, even though my job as a chef wasn’t physically demanding. My routine was: I’d load up Netflix— and, of course, I’d have some snacks to enjoy the binge
After a few hours of TV, I’d go to the gym - alone. I’d always dreamed of having a flat stomach, mainly because I was self-conscious about the judgment I faced. People called me “fat,” told me I “needed a diet,” and treated me like a monster. I felt like I didn’t belong , almost as if I wasn’t good enough.
I avoided people because of how they judged me. I hated being in pictures unless I could cover my stomach or find the perfect angle to make my face look better. Every comment, every judgment chipped away at my confidence. I was desperate to escape that cycle.
So, my workouts were limited to ab-focused exercises: Russian twists, sit-ups, planks, and some cardio. I was desperate to escape this cycle of shame and self-consciousness. It’s hard to put into words, but I constantly felt the need to hide my stomach whenever someone entered the room, fearing they would judge me.
The moment it all changed
Then one day, I saw this guy at the gym. Maybe he was a bodybuilder, but he had the physique I dreamed of: a slim waist, V-shaped back, and legs that were the biggest I’d ever seen. I wanted that. I pictured myself with his frame, and I knew I had to ask him how he did it. He must know a secret, a way to train that others don’t. Bodies like that don’t happen by accident.
My heart was pounding. My hands were shaking, and my cheeks were burning with nervousness. I wasn’t sure what I was going to say or if he’d even respond. But I pushed through the nerves and approached him.
I introduced myself, asked what exercises he recommended, and then…. HE SAID THE WORST THAT HE COULD HAVE SAID IN THAT ,MOMENT. He looked me dead in the eyes and said, “ What you need is a F*CKING diet.” - and then he looked at his friend and started laughing.
i was so upset, people don't understand its not that easy. Everyone treated me differently because of my body, and the whole gym had witnessed my embarrassment . I went home that night, questioning why does this SH*T keep happening to me.
My science-based discovery
That night, I went on my computer and searched for “the fastest way to lose weight.” - i was desperate and in need of fast results.
I ended up stumbling across an article: “Science-Based Workouts Guaranteed to Get You Slimmer.”I clicked on it without hesitation.
what I read on the first page absolutely blew my mind. It was like I’d unlocked a secret that had been kept from me all along. Everything I’d been told—just do cardio and ab workouts—wasn’t the full truth. There was an entirely different approach, one I’d never considered before, and it was backed by science.
I immersed myself into the research, spending days and weeks learning everything I could about this new method of training. Finally, I understood why I wasn’t losing weight. It wasn’t just about endless cardio or crunches—it was about changing my entire approach.
The changes i started to see
I started this new science based training style, and while the results weren’t immediate, my clothes started fitting better. My stomach was slowly shrinking, and for the first time, I felt it was possible. I started enjoying working out because I knew it meant no more love handles, no more self-judgment.
My confidence started to grow, and my energy levels skyrocketed. I knew I was on the right path.
But then, after a few months, something shifted. Despite all the progress I’d made, I found myself skipping workouts here and there, and my results started to slow. My motivation was slipping, and I couldn’t figure out why.
I tried watching motivational videos. At first, they helped—I’d hit the gym, feel fired up, and crush a workout or two. But soon, even the videos weren’t enough. I was in the hardest internal battle of my life. It felt like I was fighting my own mind every time I tried to stay consistent.
The Mindset Shift:
I needed to regain control, to break free from the prison I’d created in my own mind. I reached out to a mindset coach and started training with friends for extra support. I applied everything I’d learned about “mental fortitude”, and while It was tough.
Now, at the end of my journey, I can confidently say I eat more, train less, and feel better than ever. My energy levels have improved, and my quality of life has skyrocketed. I don’t feel the need to cover up or hide anymore. I go out more, socialize without worrying about judgment, and wear clothes I once avoided because I no longer feel self-conscious.
At first, it was hard breaking out of the binge-eating cycle—I nearly quit. But now, I’m so proud of my physical and mental transformation.
Giving back
Looking back, I wish I’d had someone to guide me through my journey.
You don’t have to make the same mistakes I did, struggling alone and feeling lost. I’m here to guide you, to make sure you don’t waste time, and to show you what’s possible when you truly believe in yourself.
